With Father’s Day around the corner, today I’m talking about simple gifts we can give our husbands every day. Do you appreciate your husband? Women complain about how under-appreciated they are, but men feel it equally, even if they don’t talk about it as much. Here are:
4 Things You Can Do For Your Husband This Father’s Day
I hate to be the one to break this to you, ladies, but as wives and mothers, we are often the ones who feel under-appreciated. If any of you is not guilty of the old, “I do everything around here” argument with your husband, please comment, because I’d like to know how to stop this nasty habit. Nobody wants to hear how what you do compares to what they do, and how much more you do. (And that’s not just your significant other. Really, no one wants to hear it, as I’ve been told an embarrassing amount of times.) The next time you feel like having a game of “Who Does More”, just remember that he has as much pressure on him, if not more, to succeed as a husband, father, and breadwinner and tell him you get it instead.
- Little things.
I’m always on the go, and I don’t always sleep a lot, so when I sit, I don’t. want. to. get up. Ever. However, being a mom usually means that the minute my delicate toosh gets lost in the bottomless cushion of our over-sized couches, I get a mommy request. I’ve learned, over the years, to anticipate what my kids might need while I’m still in the kitchen or near the tissues, etc. However, the problem has now moved to my husband. Because no sooner do I make sure that everyone has juice, tissues, snacks, clean diapers, and perfect volume on the watching TV, than my husband invariably asks me for something. It doesn’t look fair, either: he’s sprawled out and world-weary from commuting and I’m sitting up, a good 20 or 30 minutes from finding a comfy position. I went from giving him the “kiss my arse” attitude, to doing it with a grumble sometimes, to doing it …a lot of the time. (OK once in a blue moon, he can still kiss my A!) Point is doing a good deed is always a good idea, even if it’s for your husband 🙂
- Big things.
Mother’s Day is always a big production around here, and I’m not likely inclined to downgrade it! On Father’s Day,though, we often are on vacation and Chris always rejects the idea of doing anything crazy for him. But why not make an everyday surprise for your husband with things like his favorite meal or finding a sitter for the kids and taking him out for a change? It’ll involve some planning, sure, but think about how relaxed and contented he’ll be with a day to himself. He might even get up the next day and make you breakfast.
When you get right down it, these are probably the things your husband wants the most. (Seems to be true of every guy I know anyway.) A healthy marriage needs a healthy sex life, and half of that responsibility is up to you. If you start doing the first 3 things listed above, I can tell you that he will notice and when that happens, you’ll want to do #4 more. If your sex life is already pretty regular but a little boring, spice it up. If he wants to do something that you’ve been putting off and does not insult you or violate your principles (or involve other people), go ahead and give it a try! Or get a sitter and surprise him with an empty house and a full bed. Your kids will be wondering why Mom and Dad have on those goofy grins when they get home.
I hope these ideas have helped you find more ways to appreciate your husband. The things you do don’t have to be big to show your love, but marriage only succeeds when we put our partner first as much as we can. Now it’s your turn to share.